I know that most guys sit there and think how crazy girls are, and you know, you’re right, we are crazy! We’re crazy because of you though! We go crazy because we have no idea what’s going on in your head. You’ve been reading this blog and soaking in the knowledge that I have seen fit to share with you and most of you have responded by saying….”what the crap? That’s what that means?!” Well, don’t worry, you’re not alone in the dark, we’re in the dark too! We’re wondering what you’re thinking, what this or that means, how to figure you out! While we’re starting to feel ridiculous for trying to express how interested we are in you, we’re feeling dumber and dumber cause we don’t know if you like us! Basically I’m telling you all of this because as a girl, I, well, WE need you to step up! Are you wondering just how to do that? I’ve tossed out a few ideas for you, but let’s recap and come up with a few more shall we?
Single the girl out – talk to her at events, take the time to seek her out in a crowd.
Make eye contact – making and maintaining eye contact is important! It makes us feel special and like you are really trying to understand us and get to know us.
Initiating contact – being the one to reach out to someone is scary, and even though you always respond, a girl doesn’t want to be the one always reaching out. Initiating contact through text messages, phone calls, emails, even facebook helps a girl to feel valued and sought after AND it shows her that you’re thinking about her, always a bonus :D
Surprises - As much as we say we don't like surprises, we love surprises when they are well thought out. Spontaneous lunch dates, flowers at work, surprise phone calls, a note left of a car...there are endless ways to make us feel sought after.
Physical contact – touching someone doesn’t have to be as intimate as you may think, but we are all human and have been created with an inherit need to have physical contact with other humans. Little things like touching a person’s arm while talking, giving that special person a hug, putting your arm around them, just even sitting close counts! Don’t worry about “making a move” to kiss her, there’s still all that good stuff that happens before, like holding hands and cuddling (which a lot of girls like MORE than kissing…)! Girls notice when you don’t touch them at all for an extended period of time. If you aren’t making the effort to build a physical bond, the girl will start to wonder…
Communication – Putting yourself out there with the fear of being shut down is nerve racking. So much so that it can scare you right out of saying the things on your mind. While I can understand that fear completely, I believe that while we sit back and bite our tongues we let opportunities, and some of life’s best experiences, pass us by. So take a risk and clue her in, we’ll try to do the same.
So while we are all a little crazy, you can help us out by giving us some kind of a heads up if you’re really interested in us so that we don’t have to continue to wonder and analyze, because wondering and analyzing leads to insanity! Keep us sane! :D
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