Ok guys, let’s talk eye contact since I did already bring it up. In our world of singledom girls have to communicate with you single guys differently than we would with say, our brothers, our close friends, our boss and coworkers and on and on along those lines. So while I can hold whole conversations maintaining eye contact the entire time with my boss I struggle to do that with guys that are “on the market” because he may infer that I’m interested in him. SO, here’s what we do. Girls will avoid making too much eye contact with guys that we’re not that interested in in order to avoid that confusion. Granted we probably just make it more confusing cause then guys think that we’re either stuck up or painfully shy.
We’ll try to make eye contact with that lucky guy that we’re interested in if we can without feeling like an idiot. (As I write this, I realize just how stupid this really is, it doesn’t make sense, it doesn’t work, and it often times just leads to confusion AND we’re usually lacking in the self confidence to stick to it to see if he smiles back….ridiculous!) This situation is most likely to happen at church, at activities or social gatherings, times when we’re not talking directly to the guy, but in the same area as him, and it’s usually accompanied by a smile :D
Another example of when she’ll express her interest through eye contact is when you’re actually making conversation! (Go figure huh?!) I can’t really describe how to watch for this or what to even watch for, but I guess you can ask yourself if you make more eye contact with someone you like while talking to them or less? Thinking about it I guess that when I talk to a guy that I like about things regarding relationships and topics that would be more personal I avoid eye contact, I glance away or down more than if we’re talking about cars or our jobs. I think that this is normal in the beginning stages of any relationship, once you get comfortable with that person and build a level of trust it’s easier to maintain eye contact. Girls….thoughts????
So if you’re lucky enough to catch a girl’s eye and she actually manages to have the confidence to smile at you, you’re golden, or I guess she’s golden :D
Scenario: I know this girl in one of my classes that seems to like me, but she said she should set me up with her sister(half jokingly). I still think she might like me? Why would she say that she should set me up with her sis? should I ignore it and ask her out anyways? I don't want to do anything to offend her, etc.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, if a girl mentions that she should set you up with someone else, she’s not that interested. She’s trying to let you down easily, by buffering the blow and introducing you to someone else. Now eventually that could change, but probably not anytime soon. I would try to encourage an environment of friendship, but I wouldn’t press it any further right now.
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